DATING

Tears of joy were running down my face last weekend as I watched a black, topless, breastless woman dancing on the stage. She exuded freedom, passion and total ownership of her body (and her pussy!). Hundreds of women were cheering, screaming with joy and dancing all around me.

I was at Mama Gena’s Womanly Arts experience. The dancer was a breast cancer survivor, Mastery graduate and one of the Sister Goddesses.

If you haven’t heard about Mama Gena yet, she just released her fourth book, “Pussy: A Reclamation.” Through her books and live programs, she teaches women how to step into their power and live with pleasure and purpose.

That’s not easy for many of us because we live in a patriarchal culture that forces us to turn off our feminine power, plays small and sublimate our dreams and desires to everyone else’s needs. Many of us hate ourselves for not having “perfect” bodies. Many feel depleted, resentful and burnt-out from trying to succeed in a “man’s world” that disconnects us from the truth of who we are as women.

Mama Gena’s answer to these challenges is in the pussy—a woman’s power source—that many of us were taught to ignore and despise.

So, how do you connect to your pussy?

If I could summarize the entire experience, it would come down to these keys:

1. Get clear about your desires and expressing them. Ask yourself, “How do I want to feel?”, “What do I want to do/have/achieve?” and “Who do I want to be?” Write down your desires and share with someone who believes in your and fully supports you. Get a coach or mentor if you can’t think of anyone among your family and friends.

2. Turn on your pussy. Reconnect to your life force, power and divinity. Think about what you love to do and what makes you happy, joyful and free. Flirt with everyone, from men to puppies. Dance naked when no one is watching. Touch your body and practice self-pleasure. Wear sexy lingerie, or wear no lingerie!

3. Surround yourself with like-minded women. A “man’s world” taught us to “suck it up and go it alone,” but the truth is, we need other women to hold the vision for what’s possible and stand up for our radiance and feminine power.

4. Unlock your emotional range. Have you heard a man say that you’re “too much”? We’re taught to suppress our emotions and feelings out of fear of appearing “too needy,” “too insecure,” etc. Guess what? Our emotional life is connected to our desires. If we don’t express the full range of our emotions, we end up not getting what we want. It’s so liberating to allow yourself to be you and tap into a full palette of emotions—grieve, cry, scream, kick a pillow, stamp your feet, jump, sing, dance, laugh, and celebrate. Walk on the street as if you were on a runway.

After experiencing most of the things above, I got inspired to “pussify” my home, which simply means adding or removing things from your environment. I started with a bathroom by throwing out a bunch of worn-out or never-used items and turning it into a mini-spa (think white super-soft towels and rugs, Diptyque candles and skincare.) My next area to pussify is our bedroom, so that serves only two S (e.g. sex and sleep) purposes.

“What did you learn there?” my husband (who did everything so that I could attend a “pussy event”) asked when I got home.

“How to own, honor and love my Pussy,” I responded. He loved that.

Own it, Goddess! My wish is that you, and every woman, reconnects to her pussy as her life force, internal power and divinity.

Please comment here and let me know about your experience with Mama Gena’s work.