It all started with “Once upon a time there was a beautiful young princess…”

Stop right there and rewind! Before we get to the end of this story, where two people go off and live a fairy tale life, I have to tell you that there is no Prince Charming.

The sooner that we, ladies, wake up and realize that, the better our love life will be.

The average woman can spend her life waiting for that perfect man, the one who completes her. He is the one for whom she would not only give her heart, but her everything. She keeps hoping and waiting that Prince Charming will ride up on his horse and sweep her off her feet, and then they will ride off together and live happily ever after.

What you see in movies and read in books isn’t what real relationships are about.

The perfect man—Prince Charming—isn’t out there. Do you want to know why he isn’t out there? Because, he doesn’t exist! In my opinion, there is no such thing as perfect. Like every woman, each man has his flaws, his weaknesses, and his strengths. How can a woman expect a perfect man, when we as women are not perfect?

In the movie, “The Perfect Man”, Holly Hamilton (played by Hillary Duff) creates the illusion of “the perfect man” for her single mother, Jean Hamilton (played by Heather Locklear) who believes that she needs a man to be complete. Along the way Holly and Jean both learn that life isn’t really all that simple. Of course the movie is flawed because she winds up with a guy in the end. Go figure!

But my point in all of this is: Ladies, true happiness and fulfillment comes from within. So, while you are busy searching for that perfect man, you could be missing out on someone imperfect but very special.

There is such a thing as true love, but you won’t find it kissing frogs. He won’t be placing a glass slipper on your foot and he won’t say the right words and do the right things all the time.

Quit dreaming about fairy tales and start living your real life. As you learn to see yourself more clearly, you will see others more clearly. Don’t be influenced by images, wishful thinking and illusion.

Life is funny that way. We spend so much time searching for a Prince. We have to ask ourselves if we are looking for love while blindfolded? A successful relationship requires taking actions and it takes commitment from both parties to make it last a lifetime. Remember that we all have faults and we all have short comings. Sometimes you just have to meet somewhere in the middle.

While there may be no such thing as a true “Prince Charming” and life isn’t quite like you dreamed as a little girl. But.. There certainly is a man out there that can be the right one for you and share his life together with you.

So, start the story again. “Once upon a time there was a woman who wanted to find love….” And you can write the rest of the story.

I bet you are able to not only write it but turn into a reality.

Polina Solda
Dating Expert and Certified Coach
New York, NY

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