Last week I was in San Diego at the live event with a business mastermind group I belong to. In just two days I deepened relationships, hired a new member on my team, and learned strategies to grow from six-figure to multiple six-figure business.
But the biggest result was the decision I made.
To take a stand for something bigger than myself.
Set a goal larger than a $ amount.
Start a movement.
I’m super excited to share it with you because you are among the very first women I’m telling it to.
What’s been happening in the world of dating can feel very upsetting, frustrating and disappointing.
In a culture of superficial Tinder, meaningless texting and effortless hookups, it’s easy to start thinking that you have no choice.
It’s easy to buy into a myth that, if you want to find love, you must play by the new rules of the dating game.
My point of view is that YOU ARE the Rules.
You are the one who calls the shots.
You decide what your vision for your love life is.
You decide where to go to meet men (forget swiping on Tinder!).
You decide who to talk to and go on a date with.
You decide when (and if) to have sex with a guy.
You decide how to pace your relationship.
Ultimately, all of these decisions come down to one thing– your own self-value as a woman.
Self-value is something that hasn’t come naturally and easily to me.
For years I had low self-value and self-worth. This is not easy for me to share because of shame. Also, because it requires me to stop playing safe and hiding behind a mask.
When I was 17, I attempted suicide because the first man I ever loved left me. He had enough verbal and physical attacks from my mentally unstable mother, who couldn’t stand the thought of me being with a man.
In a nasty and desperate way, my mother tried to protect me from the pain she felt when my biological father left us when I was born (he showed up once, when I was 21).
Needless to say, I felt worthless and unlovable most of my life. I didn’t believe someone would actually love me for who I really was. I was hiding my real self beyond a mask of an easy-going, happy-go-lucky girl who was up for anything, as long as it came with some kind of attention and validation that made me feel better about myself (however, there was never “enough”attention).
For the first two decades of my life I was taught that “men use you and leave,” so I learned how to use and take, not love. It took me over a decade to unlearn that and start giving to give.
Fast forward to now. I still face issues around self-value, unconditional love and value-based relationships. I still fall into the invisible traps from the wounds from the past. And the worst part about it is, that hurts the people I love most.
That’s why I’m starting a movement.
Because it isn’t about me.
It’s about setting a new standard for what’s possible between a man and a woman — not just in dating, but in a lifetime.
It’s about inspiring others- singles and couples.
It’s about the vision I have for Serge, our 5-year old son, to say now or 10 years from now, “I want to have a relationship like my mom and dad have.”
The movement is around creating high-value dating, relationships and creating lifetime love that go against the norm and the mainstream.
The movement that’s built on the commitment of a woman and a man to set a high standard for their relationship from the beginning, and consistently bring out the best in each other.
Will you be a part of this movement?
Comment here to let me know.
Starting from July 6, next Friday, I’ll be streaming LIVE videos on Facebook DAILY Monday through Friday at 11 am Pacific / 1 pm Eastern.
We’re starting with the 21-day challenge to create high-value love. The winner will get a prize valued at $1,000. I’ll share all the details in the first video on July 6 at 11 am Pacific / 1 pm Eastern.
Your voice matters!