Valentine’s day was last week, and I wonder what it was like for you.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s day can be loaded with unrealistic expectations and pressure—if you let it. With all those flowers, pre-written greeting cards, heart-shaped chocolates and stuffed teddy bears, it’s overly commercialized, with an estimated $18 billion spent on this holiday in the U.S. alone. Moreover, all those social media messages can depress you if you’re single or feel obligated to go out of your way if you’re in a relationship.

To avoid this madness, look at this holiday as a reminder to simply love. Express love to yourself and to those you care about—from your family to your pets. Let them know how you truly feel, how much you appreciate and care about them. Everyone has a different way to express their feelings and emotions and share with others. And the best part is that it doesn’t have to be stuffed animals or expensive jewelry.

That’s why I shared a guided love ritual meditation with you on Valentine’s day. And why I’m now sharing my experience of that very day.

It started with the “Wake up & Love” Daybreaker’s party (the bar serves green shakes, not alcohol). at 7 a.m. in a clubbing district of Manhattan. I met my friends for the morning of love bomb meditation and performance by an astronaut who shared a love poem he wrote in space, and spoken word poetry by IN-Q.

The love poem “The Only Reason We’re Alive” read on stage by IN-Q brought me to tears. This is the kind of love I want you to have—except you don’t have to wait till you’re 85!

I was also moved by watching an unforgettable morning proposal at Daybreakerwatch it here.

Later in the day, my husband took me out for a surprise shopping trip and a romantic dinner. While dining at that fancy restaurant, I couldn’t help but notice how some couples hardly made any eye contact and barely talked. How sad!

Literally, it was a night and day difference from what I experienced in the morning, where people expressed themselves freely, hugged and smiled at each other at Daybreaker.

What I want you to get out of this is to focus on what matters the most —loving yourself and those around you. But it doesn’t have to be only on a specific day with a guy you don’t really want to go out with. When it comes to love, don’t do anything because you feel you have to.

I hope the two videos that I shared will inspire you and reignite your desire to meet new men, go on dates with men you’re interested in, and genuinely enjoy the dating process. Because that can lead you to your own engagement and, ultimately, lifetime love.

Please comment here to tell me about your Valentine’s Day. Did you love it or hate it?