Do you want to know how to have a first date that leads to more?
What if I told you that you can have a first date that leads to HUNDREDS more…
“Polina, what?! I don’t want to go on THAT many dates!”, you may be thinking now.
Don’t worry because I’m talking about having hundreds of dates with your perfect match.
You see, I’ve literally had over 1,000 dates with Paul in the last 11 years.
The math is simple:
We went on about 5 dates a week for 2 years before we got married & had a baby. So that’s about 500 dates.
After Serge was born, we’ve been going on about 2-3 dates a week for 9 years now. That’s around 1,000-1,500 dates.
So if you’re looking for dating advice from someone who has actually done it, I’m your gal!
You see, most “dating gurus” will give you cookie-cutter advice like “Wait for a man to ask you out,” “Wait for a man to come up with suggestions for a date,” “Don’t BE this or that on your first date,” etc.
In my opinion, it’s too much waiting — and too many rules that don’t work anyway — because ALL MEN ARE DIFFERENT!
If you’re a strong woman like me who takes an ACTIVE position in life, who knows what she wants and goes after it, any advice to passively wait for a man to do something sets you up for failure.
Because if you’re going to try to be someone you aren’t, you’ll be attracting the kind of men who aren’t your match.
How does that work in real life?
It’s Monday morning on June 1, 2009 (yup, just a couple days after Paul approached me to buy me a drink at a steakhouse on Park Avenue).
I had just done a great workout at Equinox and then headed to my favorite cafe.
Typically, I would study, but I had just finished my first year at NYU graduate school (with a 3.9 GPA, a Dean’s scholarship and a fall internship lined up at the United Nations).
It was a perfect sunny day, so I simply texted Paul (who had mentioned on Friday that he had a boat moored on Long Island), “What a beautiful day for boating!”
He called me back within 15 minutes!
After some laughter and a small chat, I heard him say,
“So…do you want to go boating…today?!”
And so at noon, I met him in front of the Empire State Building where his law office is located.
We spent all day on Long Island – from chasing ocean waves to playing on swings at a playground to cracking lobsters at a sunset dinner in a charming restaurant by the water.
It was a spontaneous, playful, unforgettable first date.
Now, if you wonder, “Polina, good for you, but how can I have a first date like that?”
The answer is – it’s up to you.
You get to create and design your dating experience.
You get to inspire a man to do what makes you happy.
You get to bring in the energy that will leave him wanting more.
So many women are passively waiting for a man to make the first move (without realizing that some men need clear signals from you).
Stop waiting (more active women get the best men).
You’re so powerful as a woman.
Fill yourself with desires and dreams.
For instance, if you don’t have a list of 100+ dream date ideas that would instantly elevate your energy vibration, make it now.
Start visualizing your dates and openly expressing your desires.
For example, if you want to have a picnic in the park this Sunday, you can simply text 5 men right now something like [don’t copy – it’s just an example for inspiration], “Looks like it’s going to be a perfect Sunday for a picnic in the park.”
It’s that simple.
It’s also feminine (he’ll still be the one to figure out the logistics).
Look, if you just read this and do nothing, I don’t need a crystal ball to tell you what’s going to happen this weekend (pssst….nothing).
But if you’re a woman who’s creating her own love life, as I did, I’d love to see what actions you’ve taken.
Share with me your 100+ dream date ideas.
Share with me about your results of texting to guys in the comments below.
P.S. If you suddenly have what I call a “good problem,” such as when 5 men are now planning to have a picnic with you, luckily, you have more than Sunday to choose from — so book them up! 🙂