Do you like to connect and spend time with your girlfriends?
There isn’t a single day when I don’t interact with some of my closest friends.
We share the ups and downs, exchange ideas, provide support and inspire each other.
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, each of us needs that “girls’ connection” and “girls’ time.”
Because if you think about it, each role you play requires you to be and act in a certain way.
In your career, you may feel like you have to be a decisive and strong leader.
In your family life, you may feel like you have to be a responsible and committed adult.
In your dating life, you may feel like you have to be a feminine and attractive woman.
But, with your girlfriends, you can be totally yourself–goofy and relaxed.
I just came back from a girls’ trip to Miami and it was a very special experience.
Of course, we did all those things girls do when they get together–from shopping and spa to dining and dancing.
But the best part of it was talking. About everything–our dreams and desires, feelings and fears, love and relationships.
When was the last time you talked in a way that made you feel safe, heard and understood?
That’s what I call Girls’ Power!
Your girlfriends can make you feel truly empowered and free to be authentic, open and vulnerable.
Real girlfriends will tell you things you may not want to hear, get defensive about and instantly disagree with.
In fact, if there’s something said by a girlfriend that really bothers you, instead of dismissing it, look deeper.
Because most often it’s the raw truth about how you show up and how others perceive you in a way you didn’t realize before.
That’s precious. Even if it may hurt in the short-term, it will serve you in the long-term.
What did your close girlfriend(s) tell you about yourself that you didn’t want (but needed) to hear?
The feedback I got from one of my best friends during our “total immersion” experience (spending 24 hours a day together) was an eye-opener, because it inspired me to become aware of and shift my way of relating to other people.
For instance, I didn’t realize the extent to which I was judging others. It’s something I can now notice and let go of quicker, instead of unconsciously acting on.
My friend kept saying “Flag” every time I said something coming from a place of judgment. Embracing the fact, she said that word A LOT.
Thanks to my friend’s taking a stand and being honest with me, I now know exactly how to improve and deepen my relationships.
The best part about it is, a 10x increase in the level of gratitude for people in my life.
That’s Girls’ Power in action.
It isn’t just about dressing up, having fun and taking photos (although, we LOVE all of these!).
It’s about calling each other out on things that don’t serve us, and inspiring each other to be the best versions of ourselves.
In fact, if you really care about your girlfriend(s), you’ll tell them things that are uncomfortable to say.
So, what does this have to do with your dating and love life?
Everything! Because when you show up as the best version of yourself, you attract and keep the type of person you are.
If your girlfriends have been only telling you how amazing and perfect you are, it’s fine. But what helps us grow and get better is getting unbiased, truth-based feedback on our personal blind spots.
Next time you’re with your girlfriend(s), ask for some honest feedback.
You may be truly surprised. You may get upset and annoyed. You may even laugh at yourself.
Whatever happens, use it as an opportunity to deepen your personal growth, your closest friendship(s) and your relationships with other people.
Girls’ Power is a true gift we women share with each other. It’s a beautiful and life-changing source of female freedom and deep connection.
Please comment here and share what came up for you.