DATINGfirst date

You are finally there. Feeling nervous and excited. It doesn’t matter who picked who, or whether you have decided to meet each other in a neutral place, the question is what to do on the first date?

The main concept of a perfect first date is to get to know each other, therefore, the perfect first date will usually involve a nice conversation and not some adventurous extreme activities.

If the weather is pleasant you can get some ice cream and have a walk in a park or on the beach or even sit on a bench in the moonlight and let the conversation flow in view of this romantic setting.

If the weather isn’t warm enough, you’ll probably have to stay indoors. Having a first date in one of your apartments can be intimidating for both sides since the guest doesn’t know yet the person he she are visiting, and can’t completely trust them. The host may also feel intimidated by the exposure and the invasion to his her privacy. Therefore, the most common places to have a first date are bars, cafes or restaurants.

Here are some basic first date ideas and guidelines to help you choose the most perfect place for your first date:

First ñ Noise. In a first date you want to get to know the person you are going out with and the best way to achieve that is by talking. Places with loud music, or even loud crowds, can cause you both to shout and not hear each other and spoil the date.

Second ñ lighting. Going on a first date you want to have some lighting so you can see your date and notice his her expressions and gestures. In addition, a dark place might create an impression of sleaziness that might ruin the atmosphere you are trying to create.

Third ñ Price. Even if you can afford an expensive place, and you’re planning to pay for the date, your date may feel uncomfortable in a too fancy place. First dates are stressful enough, don’t give your date another reason to be nervous about.

Finally, don’t go to a too trendy place. These places tend to be too crowded and, will expel the intimacy off your date.

In my opinion cafes are the perfect location for a first date ñ they are quiet, cozy, and allow you to stay for as long as you like without feeling obliged to spend an outrageous amount of money.

Polina Solda
Dating Expert and Certified Coach
New York, NY

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