Congratulations, you met someone you like (through friends, online dating services, on your own, or any other way) and you are going on a date!

Here are some basic first date tips to help you to get ready to your date.

Apparel is of course the trickiest of them all, you need to look gorgeous, but as if it took no effort to achieve this look. Well, I have to break the bad news to you ñ no one can look terrific with no effort. Even those seemingly snobby rock starts invest hundreds of dollars in their designer’s shabby jeans, and in their well-trimmed bristles.

On the other hand, you shouldn’t go over the edge on your first date, or you’ll send the message of over enthusiasm, which may scare your date away.

So what to do?

First of all make sure you are clean and that you smell good. Don’t surround yourself with a scented cloud, but it’s definitely a worthy cause to use that expensive perfume that collects dust in your closet.

When it comes to choosing an outfit, you have to follow one basic ñ feel comfortable.

You don’t have to wear the most brilliant and expensive item in your wardrobe. The main idea is comfort, and when you feel comfortable you are relaxed and at your best.

Here’s a tip to women: surprisingly, men usually don’t care what we’re wearing: you are most attractive when you feel attractive, therefore you should wear only the things that make you feel this way, and not tiny dresses (or anything else for that matter) that might make you feel too self aware and uncomfortable.

Finally do not change anything too drastic in your appearance before the date. Clearly when you got yourself a date, your partner already liked the way you look, so don’t try to change your appearance in order to impress your date.

Be natural and relaxed and you’ll be at your best.

Polina Solda
Dating Expert and Certified Coach
New York, NY

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