I was bouncing from relationship to relationship and it wasn’t until my last boyfriend, who I’d considered to be a serious boyfriend broke up with and broke my heart that I knew I had to take action. I just didn’t get what had happened and to me the relationship had been going fine. Yes, we’d had some problems, but what couple doesn’t? I was so hurt when he broke up with me and I just wanted to give up and quit the whole dating scene. I felt confused and extremely frustrated with the situation and my love life – it was like I was repeating the same patterns over and over again. I began to freak out, I’d always wanted a family but I thought that I’d lost my chance when Sean broke up with me.
Polina finally made me understand that I’d been wasting my life dating the wrong kind of guys the whole time. I had a lot pre- conceived ideas about my previous relationships and I thought that because we had a lot of sexual chemistry I really believed he was my soul mate. I fell in love hard and while it’s not wrong to fall in love I finally understand I had been living in a fantasy world, which was full of lust not true love. Sean wasn’t ready to commit, he didn’t want the same things and even went as far as telling me that we’d never have a future. To say I was disappointed is an understatement. When I met Polina we went over my situation and looked at my dating history. I’d had the bad habit of falling for men who were emotionally unavailable and worst of all I was so in love with the idea of being in love, I never recognized that the men I was dating didn’t want the same thing.
She made me feel safe and secure again and gave me the confidence I needed to get back out there and date again. Polina showed me how to recognize emotionally unavailable men and to look beyond the standards I’d set. Before I’d been picky – I’d wanted certain looks, certain jobs, certain salary – I wasn’t looking for the right qualities and with Polina I learned how to use a filter system to find high quality men. Since then I’ve met Dave, he works in immigration (before I’d only wanted men who were in business).
Dave’s great, he’s funny, he’s warm and he makes me feel safe. Perhaps he’s not as tall as I would have initially preferred, but in him I have found a man who I can trust. We’ve been dating for 8 months now and I can honestly say I’ve never been happier. Thank you so much for all the support, love and guidance and introducing me to some of the best and kindest women in NYC.