DATING

Statistics shows that by the age of 50 more than 1 in 4 women are still single. Some of them of course, are not interested in finding a man as a life long partner and if they are genuinely happy, that’s fine.

But you are reading this, so I suspect you are interested in finding your Mr. Right. So, here are 7  reasons that explain why they haven’t met the man and what you can do to discover what reasons are preventing you finding your Mr. Right.

Of course it could be more than just 1 of these reasons but whichever apply to you (or even if your reason isn’t identified here), they all have the same effect. If you continue to hold these reasons close to your heart, you will not find your Mr. Right. Harsh I know. But you’ll understand why by the end of reading this.

The good news is that if you are prepared to tackle the issue, then you really can find your Mr. Right.

So, here are the 7 reasons:

Reason #1: You have been burnt in the past by relationships and it is just too painful to go out and look for another.

Some women keep this reason so well hidden within themselves that they don’t even realize that’s their reason. Maybe it’s years since you split up with this partner, but you felt so hurt, so damaged by the break up that you just cant bear to put yourself through it again. As a result you aren’t out actively looking for, or getting, dates on a regular basis.

Reason #2: You lack confidence.

“Who would love me?“I’m not attractive.“No one would want to go out with me. That’s the kind of things you say to yourself if you don’t have the confidence and self-esteem you need to go out and get the relationship you genuinely deserve.

There are a whole host of reasons why you may not have the level of confidence and esteem you need. But, the important thing is that the belief that you are not worthy of a loving, caring partner is a serious block which you need to resolve in order to move forward with your love life.
For instance, one of our biggest fears that we are not lovable. If you put yourself out there and nobody wants to be with you, isn’t that what is being said? So by not putting yourself out there to be rejected, you don’t run the risk of learning that message. In other words, by not taking action to find Mr. Right you can never be said to be un-lovable because you haven’t really tried.

Reason #3. “There aren’t any decent men out there.

This belief is commonly rooted in the first reason I listed already; being burnt in the past. But there are other reasons. It could be that your standards are unattainably high. Sometimes you set them that high to protect yourself from being hurt again or from being rejected. Yes, it is possible that you genuinely can’t find suitable men, but there are millions out there, it is rarely has to do with just looking in the wrong places.

Reason #4. I just don’t have time.

If you rise before the sun and you are too exhausted when you return from work, it is understandable that you don’t have time to go out and meet new men. But just how important is it for you to find a life long partner? If it really isn’t that important, don’t worry about it, just keep going at your career.

However, if you still have that niggling feeling that you really do want to find him, you must change your routine to make time to go out looking for and going on dates.

If you haven’t managed to put those changes in place within a month, there is a bigger, hidden, secondary reason why you are not making the time for it.

Reason #5. You don’t like the dating scene.

Maybe you don’t like bars, lounges and clubs where wrong guys are hitting on you. And what if you don’t like internet dating either? Lots of time wasters, losers, players and geeks. I always tell my clients that dating is a numbers game. If you are chopping out most of the typical options to meet men and aren’t looking for the alternative ones, then you are definitely making it a whole lot more difficult for yourself.

There are alternatives, just as long as you’re prepared to invest more time in ploughing through the numbers. And yes, you will always come across men you see as losers, players or geeks wherever you go. That’s why it always helps to have a clear picture of who you are planning on meeting because when you have had another fruitless night of dating, you can always comfort yourself with the clear picture in your mind of your future Mr. Right.

Reason #6. You don’t think you need to actively search for him.

It will happen naturally. Love comes when you least expect it. One day he will show up and sweep you off your feet…. Won’t it happen? Well, how is that strategy worked for you so far? If you’ve been waiting to find him naturally for the last 10 years, how many more decades do you want to try this as a method?

Searching for him doesn’t mean you are desperate or that you are breaking some hidden female rule. It simply means you get a lot more guys to pick from and you are much more likely to find someone who will be perfect for you.

Reason #7. You don’t believe you can significantly affect the probability of finding your Mr. Right.

There is something you are doing or something you believe that is affecting your ability to attract your Mr. Right. If you don’t change it, you won’t find him. Not because he isn’t out there but because your actions keep him away from you. You may not know what it is that you are doing, but be reassured that you can change it if you a) work out what it is, and b) decide that you are committed to changing it.

So those are the 7 top reasons. There are more. But they all have one thing in common. They are beliefs that affect your ability to attract the right man. If you really want to find your Mr. Right all you need to do is work out which ones are preventing you finding him and take action to change them.