What to do when you’re in a long-distance relationship with someone you haven’t met yet?
Director: Polina Solda
Video Type: Message Video
I am Polina Solda!
In this episode I answer a question from Amy who wrote: “I am part of a penpal world where you write to people all over the world. This interested me because I want to travel to x place one day and explore my heritage as well! Anyway, I was actually checking this other guys profile when I saw this attractive man. I am hoping this site is legit too!
So, I sent him a message and he messaged me back! He asked for my email-I wasn’t sure if that was safe, but I am always cautious I am throwing it to the wind or else I will never date or do anything in this world! My question (s) are;
What should I email about? O.K. I started with his interests; why he joined penpal world. I don’t want to be boring but I want to get to know him via long distance. Also, would if one day he wants to meet-do I give it 6 months? How do you know when that’s safe? A biggie-when do I tell him I have children-he expressed being honest on his profile, which is A BIGGIE for me, cause my ex wasn’t! I want to be honest! Also, how do you know if they are a smooth operator or genuine?
I don’t want to lose my head or heart over this guy”